November is Native American Heritage Month - a time to honor the resilience, history, and ongoing contributions of Indigenous peoples. Yet, as this month culminates in Thanksgiving, a holiday built on myths that erase the realities of colonial violence, it’s hard to ignore the contradictions. This year, in the aftermath of another contentious, high-stakes election, the day takes on added complexities for many.
Here are some suggestions on how to navigate this holiday and find space for self-care, truth, and integrity.
1. Acknowledge the Truth
Let’s start with the elephant in the dining room: the myth of Thanksgiving as a harmonious feast between pilgrims and Indians. The real story is one of colonial violence, land theft, and broken treaties. Educating yourself and those around you about the history behind the holiday isn’t just important, it’s necessary. If it feels right, share what you learn with family and friends. If that sounds draining, start small - maybe a personal reflection or supporting Indigenous-led initiatives in your community.
2. Carve Out Space for Self-Care
Thanksgiving gatherings can be emotionally loaded, especially for families with divided values. Whether it’s enduring uncomfortable conversations or just managing the pressure to be “grateful,” it’s okay to set boundaries. Say no to things and people that drain you, take breaks when you need them, and prioritize rest. Remember, it’s perfectly fine to celebrate yourself, your resilience, and your community instead of sticking to traditional conventions.
3. Rewrite What Thanksgiving Means for You
There’s no rulebook that says you have to celebrate Thanksgiving in a certain way. Make it your own: a day for rest, connection, resistance, etc. Use the time to nourish yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Share gratitude with the people you love and create new traditions together.
Check out these Native-centered reads now available at the shop!
Bad Indians by Deborah A. Miranda
Sovereign Erotics: A Collection of Two-Spirit Literature
An Indigenous People’s History of the United States by Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz
There There by Tommy Orange
Iwigara by Enrique Salmon
Kumeyaay Ethnobotany by Michael Wilken-Roberston
Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
God is Red by Vine Deloria Jr.
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